7 Simple Speech Tips

Dear Friend,

How do you speak to people? Does your speech make them like your or do they feel the other way? Here I try to list down few tips to enhance your relationship through simple speech tips

(1) Before you speak - Some people speak like bursting out balloon. They wont stop at all. They keep speaking, tell everyone everything and later end up in trouble. Before you speak to anyone, think about the person you are going to speak to, what you want to speak about and how to communicate the point better. Being prepared is the best tip. Salesman do it. They practice their pitch hundred times themselves, practice with their collegues and "dropping-by" customers, before they would actually talk to a real customer who wants to buy something. Think yourselves like the professional and prepare your pitch. You have something to get done and you better be prepared how to communicate better and make it easier for the other person to understand and do that for you.

(2) Bring Good News - Take any newspaper, watch any news, you would see psycho killers on run, accident on freeway, gun shots near the pub and so on. Its quite tempting to communicate the flash news. Try to keep an hold on that, tell the good news you have, make people feel better.

(3) While You Listen - Have you come across the person who would never listen to you. You try to get your point across, he breaks in, never allows you to complete your talk and you feel irritated as you leave. You would have experienced this before and so you already know how bad the other person would feel, if you break in while he talks. So seek to understand the other guy first. Listen to understand better, ask questions and validate the information you received. Once the other guy completes, you can talk.

(4) While you speak - Use kind and constructive words. Rather than keep on asking "why did you do that?", ask "how do you plan to avoid this mistake and do better next time?". Your words should trigger for better preformance, not guilty feeling. Contain the anger, frustration you have and let out the content in a calm, relaxed manner.

(5) choose simple words - Because you prepared for TOFEL exam, you should not show your vocabulary with lengthier and almost-forgotten words to give a rich look. Remember "Simplicity is the key to better understanding". So use the simple words and the key is to make sure your point is understood.

(6) Say sorry soon - When you have done something wrong, dont wait. Also dont try to reason with the other person and justify your mistake. Feel sorry and tell the other person that you really feel sorry. Tell him how the mistake happened and what you are going to do so that the same mistake dont happen again.

(7) Congradulate faster - when your collegue gets an appreciation, an award, dont stand at your place and feel "why this guy. why not me". Go, meet him and congradulate. When good things happen to us or we do excellent work, we want others to recognise that. When you recognise his acheivement, you show that person that you are watching him and youcare about him. Its shows that what happens to the other person really matters to you. So dont delay, congradulate at the earliest possible.

Above you, communicate clearly and develop better understanding in relationships.

with luv,
Ashok