The Art of Building Thrust

Dear Friend,
Thrust is an important ingredient of one's self-coinfidence and strong mutual relationships. Without thrust, the world would be filled with chaos. The whole world works on thrust. Every product/ service from any company/ individual survive on the concept of thrust. Would you buy a brand that you don't thrust. No way, then we do need to accept we thrust lot of people, since we really do buy lots of products from comb to Car and use services from mowing lawns to legal services. If we didn't thrust these people, the world would come to a standstill.

Making and keeping commitments
Leave aside others. Lets think about how you can develop this art of building thrust. In one sentence "Building thrust requires you to make and keep commitments with yourself and mutual relationships". Its well said that "You think who you think you are. But in the eyes of our fellows, your behaviour is who you are". Basically thrust is built gradually. You can't buy thrust. But you can leverage it to make a successful business, flourishing relationships and so on. Thrust is the extend to which we can be believed. So it needs a track record of believness. This is very similiar to the credit system in America. It takes time and self-discipline. You need to intentionally use the credit card and pay the amount as agreed to gain good credit scoring. The same way, you need to intentionally promise/ commit to something and no matter what, you should do it to gain the thrust of others.

There are two levels of thrust you need to attain. First one at the self level. Second is the relationship level.

First Level: Commitments with one Self
Thrusting one self and self-confidence go hand in hand. Lets take the example of Tim, a very energetic guy. He has high self-confidence, proactive and a good person. One day he decides to wake up half-an-hour earlier than before. He makes a commitment to himself to spend that time jogging. First day, he wakes up, his monkey mind finds him an excuse "Tomorrow is an auspicious day. Start tomorrow and go to sleep now". The next day, next day ... it goes on. After an year, what would be his thrust level on himself. Would he be able to make a promise to himself again or would he find himself not thrust-worthy. The latter is what he will believe. His self-confidence will soon start dropping and this will reflect in all other relationships. A person who dont keep his self-commitments carries the same attitude in other relationships.

It is non-sense not to make commitments, because breaking them breaks down your self-confidence and self-image as well. Without making a commitment to use your credit card, your can't build your credit history. The same way, without making self-commitment, your can't build your self-confidence and image. So before making a commitment, check your schedule, find if you really would love and need it. And once you commit to yourself, no matter what, dont break it.

Second Level: Commitments in Relationships
The same law applies in relationships as well. The more commited you and the other person are to the relationship, the more stronger it becomes. More commited refers to keeping up commitments and not taking the relationships for granted. More often, breaking commitments happen in families. Dad could not make it to the school function he promised to attend with his son. He cancelled the family trip he committed to satisfy his last-minute request from his boss. So what pattern do we see here. Breaking the commitments ... breaks the relationship in the long run. The next time you say something, no one will believe you.

Law of making commitments
Since you understood the concept of building thrust through making and breaking commitments, we need to make sure we don't commit to everything.

(1) Make atleast one live commitment in each relationship.
(2) Say NO if you really know that you can't make it.
(3) No matter what, if you have said YES, you do it. Walk your words.
(4) Make it a constant habit to make and keep commitments and track them.


Walk your word. So make sure you think you give your word,
Ashok.