Little Lies make our life easier

Lies play a major role in our survival and welfare. It sounds nothing close to truth, but in fact we use lot of lies in our day to day life and successfully avoid a quarrel, fist fight and particularly a bad day. Lets take for an example, is your girl dumb enough when you say "I won't drink in todays mens party".

But in fact, little lies like "You are the most beautiful woman in the whole world" makes the life spicy and softer. My close friend used a superb phrase on his girlfriend's birthday. He said "Do you know apples all over the world were all pale white". Out of curiosity, she asked "really, how did they turn red?". He said "this amazing miracle happened on your birthday 22 years back. They saw you, the beautiful gorgeous angel come to this world and those pale little apples grew jealous and turned red". A well crafted lie indeed, but he made the day for her.

when do lies work in a constructive manner:

(1) Telling a story:
Is there any non fiction books that follow the protocols of reality. Imagination or whatever, yet lies are lies and they make us feel lighter, ease away our worries and feel relaxed for that time. Why forget movies. Actor Arnold in the climax of commando, fires and kills several thousands of men. They do fire at him, but not one single bullet could get him. I enjoyed the movie. Everyone knows what reality is. But those lies make us feel powerful. Didn't you feel amazingly confident, sparky and ready to fight anyone, when you come out of those out of reality action movies.

(2) Sweeping off the feat:
I already told you how my friend made it a day for his girlfriend with his apple story. I love the movie Hitch for the showing how tricky is it to let your real you sleeping when you fall in love. And remember when we are in love, we tell the most number of lies. We want to pretend to the guy/ girl our partner likes, rather than who we are. We say lot of "I can't live without you, honeys". Are you sure, you are still with them ... if not,then you must be dead now. Little lies made your days spicer and it was good for us to say and hear, isn't it.

(3) To the kids:
We all know there is no Santa Claus. We entertain the kids each year saying "Santa claus will bring you what you like to get this year". Not just that, we also tell lot of our own stories to our kids, spicing up with superman kind of heroism. All these do no bad and kids do like them.

(4) I am late because:
The very most used lie "I am late because the bus came late". My most used lie "The foods were served late in college mess" whenever i go late to college. At school, college, work and at home, we tell lot of little lies to keep out life go smoother. What would happen if you tell the truth "Honey, your friend looks gorgeous than you", "Sir, I didn't take leave for my friends funeral, I actually went to superbowl".

Its very evident that most of us like little lies. We want to be appreciated and recognised even when we have done a very bad job. And when we do get appreciation, we want to feel that is true.

Unless the lie hurts someone, its a great asset for a fantastic life. Leave your comments for me. By the way, I dont mind if you put a little comment "Ashok, this is a nice article". Little lies, spicy life ha.

With luv,
Ashok.

who do you ask - a friend or an expert

The major problem in solving a problem is to stick with those people who haven't solved the problem themselves.

Lets start with "Are you a speaker or doer ..."

This can be better explained like "are you just a philosopher or a role model".
What is the difference ...

Actually I am a philospher in most of what i talk about in my blogs. I dont get time to try out what i express in my articles. What i feel right, I express those as ideas. Some may work, some may not work. But I leave these crispy feel of life as articles and let the reader decide whether to swallow or dump it.

Lets take the case of Mahatma Gandhi. He is not a philosoper. He is a doer and role model. He said "Tell the truth all the time, no matter what", and he did it. He lived as a role model to non-violence. Many times, he was beaten by cops in freedom struggle and he never even tried to hit them once. That's called living out and being a role model.

who would you contact when you have to make a life turning decision ... to the philosopher or a role model.

Lets take a simple example. I talked to two people about marketing my friends real estate website in india. My friend almost convinced me that FM Radio is the best choice. Its decently priced and most people will be hearing it all time and will make a big successful campaign. then i met a branding guy, who runs marketing top most companies for almost eight years. He laughed first and then told me what my friend missed to understand. 60 to 70 percent of those who hear FM radio in india are teenagers and he asked me "what, your friend is trying to sell properties to teenagers?. I got the point. Its completely easy to take the opinions of others for good, but you got to know from whom you are taking the advice from.

who you contact decides your destiny?
Simple, you want to start a new business. If you contact someone who has tried it and went bankrupt, what can you learn from him ... a feel of disappoinment, the knowledge and fear of driving the business to bankrupty. What if you connect to someone running the business successfully? You will understand tricks of a successfull business.

Your destiny depends on whom you ask for advice. The major problem in solving a problem is to stick with those people who haven't solved the problem themselves. Find out who solved it and get the solution. Life is as easy as it is.

What can you do about it ...
Dont tell me that you dont have a problem. Everybody has a simple problem of theirs. Working in a dull job, not able to continue education, love of their life. There is always something missing in your life, that drains your time every day. Start by writing down the list. Find out who has solved it before. If you cannot, you can always contact the experts. They are in every areas of life from cooking to divorce. Google them, reach out to them and acheive it.

Contact those who have solved the problem themselves ... dont waste your time.

With luv,
Ashok.

Are you alive or dead

Life is very boring if you follow protocols. Life is productive but not interesting if you follow a routine. Life is a standstill if you dont speak to living beings

An uneasy question ofcourse. This question strikes me after I watched the movie "the secret of success" by michael J.Fox. Its a movie released in 1987. By that time, I was a kid and kids are not allowed to watch PG-13 movies.

Anyway, the guy is so lively all over the movie. He lives on each moment. He speaks out loud, he makes hard decisions in split seconds, what he did was totally out of box to a book smart. Thats when i really got this question, which i took as the topic of this new article.

Liveness and its core symptons:
A lively person is one who radiates so much of positive energy, that you can sense just by being near him. a lively person attracts our attention faster, does activities with ease that we would feel very thrilled to do indeed. He speaks with positive emotion, creates a environment to enjoy the humor in day to day life. When you see him, your heart longs to live his life. He lives in the present. The past and future doesn't exist for him.

Lively person will greet you like he knows you for a long long time
and makes it easy for you to converse with him.

Is it so difficult to be lively?
I have a personal comment on my livelienss. I prefer to say "I am a dull person". Meanwhile, I often switch to liveliness, when i get motivated by seeing lively people. This is something like electro magnet. Just the passing of current, makes the iron rod get magnetic power stay in it for few moments. Possibly, When I was writing this, I am overescatic about being lively. Its difficult to be lively ... and the reason is :

We are all sucked up in a boring routine life ...
Does it sound wierd to you ... think of the last time you wanted to get off the bed happily. If it was too long, then you are living a boring life. After all living each of your present moments is something like a gift to yourself and others. The least thing i would want is a dull person in my sight. It makes me dull, by the way.

Cultivating liveness in your life is the major motto ... then how to ?
Liveliness is ofcourse mostly happiness. And it means taking the sad part lightly. Make your light, feel light, walk light. First of all, stop walking, talking like a stiff person, whose spinal cord looks like a straight road. Quit doing so if you are. Use lively wordings.If you work in corporate world, don't send out emails or have conference calls with very limited formal wordings. Make it lively. Work, work, work isn't lively. I can tell you that when you dont spend lot of time with living beings, you are going to become dull. I am a software engineer and i spent more time with computer solving the issues of other corporation. I use this as an excuse to not being lively all time and its true to some extent. So go meet people. Understand that you are a living being and don't get stuck with those non living papers and machines. Use wording with knack. This is what lively people do and get humor out of a tense filled situation.

Find a companion:
It could be your parents, a girlfriend/ boyfriend or even be your pet. Pets are great companions. During my school days, I used to wake up early in the morning, burning my eyes over huge books during exam times. Do you know who was my companion. My Basi. Yes that's her name and she is a white little cute cat. She would scratch the window doors by 5 am in the morning, wakes me up from bed. I open the window, she will play with a little plastic ball. After 10 minutes she would be half sleep on my lap. Everyone else will be sleeping at that time and she was the only companion during my exam days and I dedicate some of my academic success to her. She is no more now, but she comes to life in our unforgettable moments. So go get a cat or dog. They are good companions. You will know how to live.

The most important stuff is to create a refreshing mood in you ... every now and then ...
Life is very boring if you follow protocols. Life is productive but not interesting if you follow a routine. Life is a standstill if you dont speak to living beings. So do something new like:

1, Surprise your friend with a surprise party ..
2, Take a different route to office/ school once every week
3, switch coffee shops once every month.
4, Arrange for blind dates
5, Do something crazy or new ...

See, liveliness during your routine life comes from indulging in out of box, non-routine life. So do it and live the life to the fullest ... that would be living your present.

Got It .. Now I got to go and live my life to the fullest ... bye bye
.. take care ... remember,live to the fullest ...

with luv ...
Ashok.

Source of Insipiration for this article: : The Secret of My Success